I just realized that my life is poles apart from a few years ago. I was looking through the pictures in my phone and I realized that life has changed drastically after I started working. The pictures were not as exciting anymore and it made me feel old, and lifeless. 🙂
I miss my university lifestyle. 5 exciting years of assignments, books, lectures, friends, and most importantly, FUN! Similar to everything else in life, there were loads of ups and downs the entire years but today, sitting here all alone, I’m only reminiscing through the beautiful memories and laughing at what seemed like the end of the world back then.
Life was good then, honestly. I could choose to drink and party all night long and skip class the next morning, push assignments to the very last minute and have uncountable sleepless nights just to complete them before the due date, sleep like there’s no tomorrow without worrying a single bit, lunch with friends till its tea time, movies, dramas, and the list continues. Gosh! I miss them all.
When they say that money can buy everything, they were absolutely wrong. This is something money can’t buy, ever! And there’s nothing I can do to turn back time and relive those moments again. These will be the memories I’ll cherish till the end of time. It’ll preserve in this small part of my brains as a story to be told someday.
Now, back to reality! I shall make the best out of my life and live every moment like there’s no tomorrow. It’s time to get out of the comfort zone and understand the real meaning of hardship. It’s time to build the future! 🙂
Have you felt that you’ve used the wrong choices of words to advice a friend? Have you felt that things could have been much better if you chose to shut the fuck up instead? Have you felt that sometimes you gotta pretend to suit others need?
If you’ve not, better pray that you wouldn’t cos I felt that in an instant after letting out all I could last night. It was relating to a friend who had been down for the past 4 months and nothing seems to be helping her to rise up. I may have used the wrong choices of words but to be judged and concluded based on what I said with the utmost genuine intentions is extremely hurting.
I’ve tried each and every way I could to make her feel better and realize her self-worth but I couldn’t bear it any longer that led me to just snap and let out everything that I felt all this while. I agree that I may be wrong in my way of approaching but I can’t pretend no longer. I just felt like saying all I want the way I should.
Sometimes I wonder, is it wrong to care? Is it wrong to be ruthless just to get some sense knocked in someone’s head? I didn’t mean to be a bitch, I just want her to get over it already! I know it is her personal life and it is up to her to decide when exactly she wanna feel better but as a friend, I believe that I should be her pillar to support her at her worst. I did all I could for the past months though I was going through the similar emotional turmoil. It was even harder then cos I was tucked in a mess myself and being a pillar for someone when your pillar is practically shattering wasn’t a good idea.
I personally believe that no matter how much you love someone of the opposite sex, never bury down yourself to the ground. Love yourself just as much, in fact more for then you’ll realize what or who is it that you actually deserve. Being treated like a puppet for the name sake of love wouldn’t make you a greater being but weaker over time! Some people are blinded by love while being in a relationship, well.. at least I was.. .. . and in that atmosphere, they just tend to ignore the obvious. Accepted. But .. When you realize that you’ve been treated unacceptably after you’re dumped or when you dump him/her, then why don’t you live by that facts and move on?
If you value yourself and put yourself high enough in your very own life, it’ll capture you that you had been living with someone who didn’t value or respect you for your worth. Never let a man/woman to take advantage of your innocence, silence and shyness for his/her satisfaction. To me, relationship doesn’t work that way. The key to every relationship should be respect. You respect his choice and he shall respect yours. Compromise where you should, especially if it results to uncomfortableness or hurt.
This is all I wanted her to know. I tried relating it to her personal life, her personal stories but she never seemed to get it. I said it in the nicest way ever and the bitchiest way ever.. But I still failed. And I feel I did enough but for a friend, the word ‘enough’ never exists. She may be upset or angry with me now but there’s nothing I could do to make her feel better cos I’m as upset. An apology is all that I could hand over from my side but the fact that she thinks I made her feel disgusted about herself … Sigh! I’m speechless.
Well, I guess I shall just leave her alone and give her some time to think for herself what I really meant out of the conversation yesterday. Even if she decides to take all my words literally and not look at the genuine intentions that were hidden in between those words, I shall let her be. I may not sound like a good friend and I’m not gonna label myself as one either but I know I meant it sincerely.
People, if you’ve got some advise, please do not hesitate to drop me comments. It’ll be very much appreciated.